🔥60+ Burned Out Symptoms – Listen to Your Life!

Burnout isn’t an academic exercise. It’s an all-consuming, systemic condiiton. It’s your entire body sending you one clear message – something has to change, and it has to change now.” Meredith Grey from an episode of Grey’s Anatomy 

Burnout. I’m all too familiar with burned out symptoms. I’ve experienced burnout three times in my life. And you know what? I think this is so important to say before we go any further. Each and every time, burnout has proven to ultimately be an extraordinary gift that ultimately led to breakthroughs, new opportunities, healing, transformation, and all sorts of happy dance things.

What Does Burned Out Mean?

The World Health Organization describes burnout as a syndrome characterized by “Feelings of energy depletion or exhaustion, increased mental distance, negativism or cynicism, and reduced efficacy.”

In my experience, I’d say their description is right on the money. I remember feeling like a bounce house with a slow leak. Ssssssss.

Now, the World Health Organization’s focus is purely occupational – workplace burnout. But in my personal experience with burnout and with the entrepreneurs and overachievers I’ve coached and the survivors of childhood sexual abuse I work with, I believe there are other forms. And what fascinates me is that no matter the form of burnout, each leads to feelings of energy depletion, exhaustion, mental distancing, negativism or cynicism, and reduced efficacy. Ssssssss.

No one should have the life drained out of them every day. So, let’s explore four different forms of burnout and some associated burnout symptoms. Because here’s the thing: We want to listen to our lives because they’re always speaking to us, constantly feeding us critical information and attempting to get our attention. After all, the first step to waking up is to know you’re asleep.

Life will bring you your unconsciousness as a mirror over and over again.” Anonymous

Emotional Burnout Symptoms

The state and care of the soul are foundational. Therefore, emotional burnout will impact every single area of your life. If left unaddressed, emotional burnout will eventually lead to burnout in other areas of your life. This I know all too well from personal experience. And so you might be dealing with spiritual burnout or relationship burnout, but simultaneously, my friend, you’re also dealing with emotional burnout.

God designed you with an internal guidance system to alert you when something is off. Are you feeling or experiencing any of these symptoms?

• Loss of focus
• Obsessive thoughts
• Stuck in a negative mindset – always believing the worse
• Mental fog
• Overwhelm
• Chronically feeling stressed out
• Feel powerless to change
• Loss of direction or purpose
• Paralyzed with indecision
• Isolation
• No matter who you’re with, you feel alone
• Internally divided
• Anger – more than likely covering up a deep sadness
• Pretending you’re totally fine
• Perfectionism
• Overworking
• Constant hurry
• Feel frozen inside, dull, lifeless
• The current pace of life feels unsustainable
• All manner of physical symptoms – too many to list
• Zero bandwidth
• Days characterized by stress, anxiety, sadness, and fear
• An emptiness that won’t go away
• An unrelenting fear of death

Work Burnout Symptoms

Most overachievers and entrepreneurs struggle with work burnout, which is exhausting and disorienting. You feel disoriented because you’ve lost your way or your sense of purpose. Your desire to make a difference beyond yourself is still burning within you, but the way forward seems unknowable. I remember feeling like a dog chasing its tail. Or a hampster spinning the wheel ferociously but going nowhere fast.

What are you experiencing?

• Loss of direction
• Loss of purpose
• Boredom
• Life feels meaningless or purposeless
• No clear vision, lack of clarity
• Frustrated from going in the wrong direction
• Busy, busy, busy, but not effective
• Paralyzed – can’t discern the next right thing to do
• Trying to map out a plan feels exhausting
• Goals feel out of reach
• Do I even want what I think I want?
• Internally divided
• What you’re doing feels at odds with who you are
• What you’re doing feels at odds with what you believe
• You feel internally divided
• Driven – the feeling you can never rest or take proper care of yourself
• Disconnected from your most important relationships

Relationship Burnout Symptoms

Oh, the pain of relationship burnout. Ugh. Like the bride and groom, once passionate and connected, until the creeping distance slipped them into indifferent roommates. Or the worn-out frustrated parent and the equally worn-out frustrated child.

As you read through these relationship burnout symptoms, think of your most important relationships – marriage, kids, family, and friendships. Are your relationships flourishing? Or slipping away?

• Boredom – going through the motions
• Loss of emotional intimacy
• Loss of physical intimacy
• Loss of connection
• No laughter
• Constant arguing
• Lack of care for one another
• Everything irritates you
• You bad-mouth them to your friends, coworkers, parents, etc.
• Stuck in the silent treatment cycle
• Nag. Nag. Nag.
• An overwhelming urge to control the other person
• Conversations characterized by disrespect
• No listening – feeling unheard
• Feeling misunderstood
• Feel invisible
• Secret keeping
• Confiding in others
• Pretending all is well
• Living separate lives – spending little to no time together

Childhood Trauma Burnout Symptoms

I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. And I am not alone. One in three women and one in five men were sexually abused during childhood – and this statistic only accounts for the abuse that was reported to authorities. So actually, the real number is much, much higher. Why do I bring this up? Because, my friend, if you were sexually abused as a child, my empathy and passion run deep for you. You’ve known burnout your whole life.

Do any of these childhood trauma burnout symptoms resonate with you?

• You feel or believe you’re invisible and worthless
• Deep feelings of shame and guilt
• Lost Years – a period of time you can’t remember
• Believe only bad things will continue to happen to you and those you love
• A pattern of choosing relationships with unfaithful people – abusers and users
• Profoundly caring of others, but no self-care
• Weak immune system, autoimmune complications, your body feels stuck in Fight or Flight
• You worry about being crazy or being perceived as crazy
• Self-loathing and self-sabotaging
• The feeling and belief you can’t say no
• The belief you were created to be used by others
• History of sexual promiscuity
• Hatred toward your own body
• Overweight not to be sexually perceived
• Uncomfortable with particular places, situations, etc., without knowing why
• Terrified of the dark/nighttime
• Claustrophobic
• Disconnected from your body – you don’t receive your body’s messages
• Unable to stay present during sexual intimacy
• Disconnected from instincts or doesn’t trust instincts
• Deep within, you sense a feeling of powerlessness
• No sense of safety in the world
• Extreme high tolerance for pain
• A history of depression, panic attacks, or suicide ideation
• PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Now What?

Every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, ‘This is important! And this is important! And that is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And that!’ And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, ‘No. This is what’s important.'” Iain Thomas

Most people hope to live their dreams one day. But one of the many beautiful lessons burnout has taught me is that to live in the moment and enjoy the journey is the living of the dream. Today is the living of the dream. We’re all endlessly figuring things out. Adapting. Failing. Starting again. It’s all a part of a vibrant meaningful life.

No one should have the life drained out of them every day. If living in the moment and enjoying the journey feels impossible for you, something’s amiss. And so, my one call to action today is to listen to your life. It’s talking to you, my friend. Awareness of burnout is the first step to recovering from burnout. Pretending everything’s just fine will slowly make you a victim of your own life.

Now, go back through the burned-out symptoms, but before you do, pray and ask God to awaken you to how you’re burned out.

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